The (Sometimes Harsh) Realities Of Blogging

Wednesday 4 April 2018

The inspiration for this post came from a conversation that I had with one of my boyfriend's housemates. He found me in the living room (where the lighting is best, of course) taking blog photos of some products. The conversation went something like this...

Him: What the hell are you doing?
Me: Erm. Taking photos?
Him: Of make up? Why?
Me: I write a blog, and these are photos for a post.
Him: A blog like on the internet? So what, you write reviews?
Me: Well, yes, among other things.
Him: So how do you decide what to write about?
Me: Well, this was sent out to me to test and review...
Him: For free?
Me: Well yeah, but in exchange for a review.
Him: So what you're saying is you get sent free stuff and all you have to do is write about it? That's alright isn't it?! Easy freebies!
Me: Well, no it doesn't quite work like that...
Him: You do look a bit daft standing on the sofa to take them photos though.

And before I could explain to him how it does work, he'd lost interest and went back to checking on the pasta bake he had in the microwave.

It's something that we've all come across as bloggers. The assumption that all we do is receive parcels of free shit and just have to tap a few words out saying whether or not we like it. Having people shrug it off as something unimportant when you try to prioritise writing posts or getting other blog-related tasks done. Choosing your opportune moment to head into the living room to take photos when no-one is home because they just don't get it. The assumption that everything a blogger does is easy.

Well. I'm out to challenge the stereotypes and assumptions that come with being a blogger and give a little insight into what it's really like. Because sometimes, what you see from bloggers on social media and what blogging acutally is, couldn't be more different.

Blogging isn't easy. Blogging isn't always exciting, or glamorous or even necessarily enjoyable. It's bloody hard work. It's relentless, high-pressure and oh-so-bitchy at times. 

Blogging isn't calling each other 'lovely' all day long and in return receiving endless messages of love and Follow Fridays, just because you're so gosh-darn nice. Yes, being kind to people will get you further, but in a massively saturated industry, where we're all clamouring and shouting over each other to get your content noticed, being kind just isn't enough. Getting noticed in the blogosphere is tough, and to get noticed, we seem to put constant pressure on ourselves to stand out. 

Blogging isn't receiving exciting parcels through your door every day. Sometimes, blogging is watching as seemingly everyone else in the world receives beautiful PR packages from a brand you adore and blog about all the time, and wondering why your content still isn't good enough to be noticed. And then shunning away that abhorrent thought because no one can know that you can feel even the tiniest pang of jealousy, because that's just rude and not being supportive of others' success. (When actually, it is possible to feel both.)

Blogging is choosing between a beauty review and an opinion piece - beauty is what you usually stick to but you're so passionate about the latter. But you choose the review because you opinion could be seen as controversial seen as controversial and God-forbid you get caught up in any blogger drama and are deemed uneducated. (And I'm obviously not saying blog about views motivated by hate or discrimination, because that is NEVER okay. I'm just saying that often, opinion pieces are taken out of context and mountains are made out of molehills.)

Blogging is pretending that you don't care about the views, but secretly dying inside when a post you worked so hard on isn't being read and contemplating giving it all up and wondering why you're not good enough.  Blogging is sitting up all night with writer's block, or staring at a blank screen because you've had such a long day at your day job and any inspiration has been drained out of you.

When reading this post back, I wonder if maybe I sound too negative, and I don't mean it to come across so. I really love blogging, it's my passion and I'm so much happier in myself for doing it. I just think it's important to address the fact that what we do is, at times, brushed under the carpet as easy and it isn't so, there's a lot of tribulations that come with it that should be discussed rather than ignored.

What do you guys think?

Sian xo 


  1. You don't sound too negative at ALL! I think it's great that you're writing about blogging in this way. I think even AS bloggers, we can sometimes pull the wool over our eyes and look through rose tinted glasses and pretend everything is rosy when really, sometimes, it can be pretty naff! I had an awful March blogging wise. Opportunities were literally non existent and of course this was when I saw people I follow on Twitter get all the opportunities under the sun and it made me feel absolutely awful. I'm aware this will swing the other way at some point and someone might be looking at ME the same way but it still sucks and people who don't blog will never really understand those pressures.


    1. You're absolutely right hun! I think because we all put on a bit of a persona on the internet it's easy to disguise the realities and the kinda work we put in behind the scenes! xo

  2. This post seriously speaks to me! My lovely man is so supportive of my blogging but I’m sure if someone came round when I was in the middle of a mammoth photo session they’d think I was mad!! Blogging can be such a hard graft and I wish people knew that more when they can be so hurtful!

    1. Hahahaha I know right - my boyfriend is so supportive and can put up with my crazy blogger ways haha, but I think it was just bizarre to his housemate! xo

  3. This is the first blog post I’ve read in general for a long time with me being so busy with university etc and it sucks to already feel so isolated from the blogging community. People who have supported me in the past and who I have supported lovingly unfollowed me and honestly, it made me feel like crap - like they were really just in it for the likes and engagement and don’t appreciate me as a person and for my content. Another harsh reality of blogging and it really goes to show there’s only a select few who are both hard working and genuine people and it is those people who will succeed. Loved your post.

    1. Aw I'm so sorry to hear you've had a bit of a rubbish experience :( I'm not surprised that made you feel rubbish - I had a year off from blogging and I came back feeling super isolated and like I wasn't part of the community anymore, but once I stuck with it for a while I'm slowly but surely feeling better xo

  4. God I relate to this. This post is absolutely perfect I think for people who think blogging is just getting mail and writing a few things. I wrote about why I won't be a full-time blogger on my blog, it was so cathartic to finally get my thoughts out there!

    Amy |

    1. Definitely - I think it's so important to try to break down the stereotypes, I hate that how hard we work can sometimes be dismissed! Yes I remember reading your post - sometimes it's so good to just get your thoughts out! xo

  5. You are right! I started blogging two weeks ago and I haven't even share it on my Facebook personal page because I am sure people are going to think that that is nothing important. I am loving the experience and enjoying every second of writing but it is sometimes frustrating when some people consider what you do a hobbie when you actually want make a living out of it.

    Miriam |

  6. This is such a captivating post - thank you so much for writing it! I agree with so much of this, especially when it comes to reviews/opinions. Sending you good vibes :)

    Nati x | | @NAfterCoffee